Being that I'm a 27 year old married man who came out as bi nine years ago, I have all but forgotten what it was like when I came out and how difficult trying to get a date was when being very open about being bi. It wasn't until one of my friends was asking me what it was like when he found out his 16 year old younger brother was bi.
I realized that I could help him with some of the finer points and harsh realities of what it's like being bi.
1. Don't think the GLBTQ community is as inviting as they make it sound. It might as well be the GLTQ community. Many gay men / lesbians are leery of bisexuals and are scared they will run off with someone of the opposite sex. Men love bi women but think that it means that threesomes are on the table. Women often think bi men are gay and will try to treat them as gay men, or are worried they will run off with a man.
2.Many straight people will think you are gay or "confused" or "greedy".
3. Have your cake and eat it too will probably be said to you more than once
4. Some gay men sometimes think bi men who are with women can't be fully pleased by a woman.
5.If you are in a hetero relationship and are bi, forget being taken seriously in the GLBTQ community.
6.Other bi people are generally easier to be in a relationship with and better understand where you are coming from.
Its not all doom and gloom, if you are in an open relationship or a threesome comes up, you are at an advantage. You get to appreciate the asthetic of both sexes, which are wonderful but for different reasons. You are open to a variety of experiences and are not constrained to one sex(no man they are great too bad they are not the opposite sex than what they are)
In the end, being bi can be stressful and can make you feel like no one understands you or how your sexuality works, but plenty of people do(I know I do) and you are not alone.
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