Friday, December 28, 2012

It's not "cisgender priviledge"

I read a blog recently that had a list of 30+ cisgender privileges.  To say it pissed me off is an understatement and here's why. 
Most people fit into clearly identified genders and most people assume that if you look like one sex you are that sex.  It's not a bad thing and works an overwhelming majority of the time.  It's not my fault you get butthurt when you look like a man and I call you sir.  You are an exception not the rule.  Don't tell me you are a non-binary genderqueer pansexual who like the Xi pronoun.  I'm not calling you by that, mostly because I will be walking away at that point and not talking to you ever again. 
Don't complain about being questioned or given dirty looks when using the bathroom or lockerroom of the gender you identify with(or complain you can't go because there is no "other" option).  Those are places of privacy and most people prefer to be going to the bathroom/being naked around people of the same sex for that business.  Seeing you walk in with implants in your chest, a pronounced Adams apple, body hair, and a big floppy penis to boot makes others uncomfortable.  Your rights don't supercede that of people who identify with their correct gender.  You are not a special snowflake that uses surgery to feel "right" and expect the majority to bow to your will and place their own comfort below yours.  If this were the case I could go hey I gotta dick but I identify as a woman and my wife is a lesbian so im going to bring my twig and berries to your lockerroom and look at your naked asses! 
When I was in high school I was out of the closet as bi.  I made sure that in the locker room I didn't stare or gawk at any guy because it would make them uncomfortable and would make my prescense unwelcome.  I had respect and trust from them because I went with the flow and didnt stare and never used being bi as an excuse to make another person uncomfortable when they had every right to be.  If my prescense around someone made them uncomfortable they could shove it, but I respected their boundaries.
Also if you have a penis you can't be a lesbian and if you have a vagoo you can't be a gay man.  Those are labels we use to identify people and have very real definitions.  You only serve to muddy the waters when you are a dude screaming you are a lesbian trapped in a man's body.  That's called a heterosexual.  You can scream all you want but you can't identify as lesbian and actually be a lesbian any more so than I can be a black woman(I'm a white male).
All of your terms and different pronouns sound preachy or just plain irritating.  If I can't infer at least some things about you by looking at you(male/female white/black etc) and you have to tell me what in the fuck you are, I will ignore you.  "You are a white female, possibly bi."  "Wrong I'm a trans-male who is pansexual!" It's really fucking irritating. 
One final note, I didn't give you all the labels, and groups of people generally end up choosing their own label.  We biologically-mentally right people didn't choose the asinine cisgender label.  It's all a ploy anyway to make yourselves seem like you are on a spectrum instead of abnormal(check to DSM IV btw).  Since you gave me a term though if you call me a cisgender I will call you either "an inside out dicked cock mutilator" or "one who pulled a pole out of a hole".  If you want to call me something, call me normal because that's what I identify as and to call me otherwise is asking me to give you consideration you won't reciprocate. 

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